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Yet the child support bill keeps racking up, I never want to leave my kids. Michelle Ferreri licensed in PA and NJ only - Philadelphia, PA. Dorothy Walsh Ripka licensed in OH, IL, MO, KY and TX only. It matters because its disproportionate.. She loses nothing, essentially, while the fathers salary is now roughly 20k less. Hes 52, and he has kids by his wife neice and daughter. it took them 3 weeks to even decide to allow me visitation..because of her plan and how she played the victim card..i dont have the money to sue for perjury. When both the child's mother and presumed father agree on who the child's father is, paternity can be established voluntarily. If one parent doesnt want to work the other parent should get the kid. dads. I fully agree with that man. Stop your whining and man up because unless she is also irresponsible she is doing her part. Saying she owe her friend payments of 125 a week for watching my daughter. And 100% would gladly take care of my kids every night and i would not want a dime from her. We work together as a team to support her and we communicate. The National Parents Organization states, "Long ago and far away there was a land in which non-custodial fathers paid child support directly to the custodial motherIn the 1970s, child support collection, disbursement and accounting became a function of government instead." #childsupport #indigentfathers #americancorruptfamilylaw Abolish the systematic allotment of support without enforcing Shared Parenting Your assumption is that people have children under ideal circumstances where the parents have good paying jobs, a big house with a nice picket fence, and two cars in the driveway and $1,000.00 is chump change. For his child support he is a child care worker, again he requested parent time with his 1st born and the court (a woman judge) told him he should be paying more child support (He is already paying more then the required formula states should be paid) so the judge told him to get a real job ( a woman would have never been told that!). Divorce game plan for women. Is anyone else in this situation? Im a little confused though, you married a guy that pays child support for 2 other kids? Whats important is both parents in their childrens lives; neither should be handed money to support their own child. I think both parents should have to work and if the parent with custody has infant they shouldnt have to work until the child starts school then starts both parents haveing jobs and i think the custodial parent should have to show receipts of where the CHILD SUPPORT goes to the the children like light bill rent water if ya have to pay for such and heating if not wood heat a/c is a luxury not a necessity fans cool just fine also no car payments cause less face it people theres always public transportation that will take you anywhere you need to go and there are goverment assited phones so ya dont need an 800 dollar iphone or what ever anyway thats just my take on things O one more thing if its court order that you payand have visitation ever other weekend well dangit custodial parents stick to the LAW and if a child moves out before turning 18 dont lie and keep collecting child support for that child also a LAW i think its called fraud theift embezzlement or something im sure its nit good and could lead to prison if you still accepted the money for o i dont know 3 years and didnt let the person paying the child support see their children which was court ordered okay i think im done STUPID CHILD SUPPORT. We missed holiday dinner and I had to pay someone else to fix my car. But we are all equal. He completely has controlled our lives and finances for the last four years. Once I informed her of this it she began to avoid my calls, msgs. After weighing her options, the female may choose abortion. Shouldnt they let me deduct my child care expenses from my year to date income to lower my child support? So again, dont pass off your responsibility on tax paying citizens, thank you. My advise is dont get married, have kids or be with anyone whos a gold digger. Even if you take into consideration housing and vehicles.. Its a flawed system. I contested for a while but in the end realized I could not keep her where she did not want to be. Unfortunately, some parents dont take initiative to support their child but I do see that the system is flawed, I. Im a father who lost 50/50 custody because I grounded my daughter 13 from a cell phone. Thats why its not going to change because nobody does anything about it because it afends people who think your ex deserves half of your check because the government uses you as a scape goat so they dont have to pay for anything so they make you pay a ridiculous amount so that ex is satisfied and wont ask for anymore hand outs. But 800.00 a month and 1200.00 on a 3 paycheck month, come on thats crazy. If a father becomes unemployed and then takes a lower-paying job, a reconsideration of the amount of child support due might be appropriate. I was confused as how this could be a debt even before a child support order existed?? This should be the new law. Being the monetary and human being support system for said child. You dont get to make all decision because of it. But by law she is still entitled to get child support (tax free) even though she has a very successful career. While fathers skipping out on their child support responsibilities certainly shouldnt be ignored, current research suggests the deadbeat dad is probably more of an outlier than the status quo. I recently lost my position as a therapist because honestly I could not ethically do my job as I felt like telling men things based on my experience alone. I guarantee you child support will not consider these extra mouths to feed when calculating your contribution to your first obligation. The problem is that 50/50 is not the default and men have to bankrupt themselves in the hope of obtaining custody of their own children! The one that does live with me costs me $900 a month. Hes tried to run over my kids and myself more than once. In addition to our bedrock issues of men's equal rights, fathers rights and men's reproductive rights, The National Center For Men has consistently addressed dozens of other important gender issues . Dont you see what is happening? This is biological. Several sociologists and scholars are quoted in the story suggesting possible solutions to update the system to better support children while also incorporating fathers into their lives. Tell me what about his Physical needs he is losing his Wife sometimes Wife herself wanted Divorce for her so called Freedom to Dance, go everywhere with maybe men, and he lost his kids. Most of this money goes to fill the welfare coffers of the state who like to pander to single mothers and the children. I was waiting for a voice of reason. She told them due to all her disabilities she had to apply for ssi an they dont care they say she still has to work even though alot of professionals told her that she cant. He can be thrown out of the childs life, and have to fight the mother for years to get his child back from the adoptive parents. So since she was claiming that as income, he should have been able to claim it as an expense. Without going into a lot of detail, I had it pretty bad with support and other divorce obligations. In my state the father is subject to license suspension, penalties and fines, and jail time if the support amount is not current. Its unfair to my child.mind you before he got incarcerated he owed over $15,000 in support. The law should be added to so that those women don't have several babies and then wait for the child support to come in. How does that make it a mediation if he basically says that it is unlikely. When did raising children become unreal. Trust me Ill be waiting and I will tell her the story and show her the court papers of all the fighting I did to get my visitation and all the false reports her mom made so I couldnt her like threatening to kill her, my home being unsafe, and mess a of other things. I managed to prove to the court that the ex does in fact work under the table. We have joint custody. When his son came out as gay she had her new husband beat him up she told him she hopes he gets aids and dies. I am not a perfect parent, but I could never treat my kids this way. I got 50-50 custody of my son at eight months old, but still have to pay her $600 a month. If a pregnancy occur from the equal decision is when equality breaks down for the man. (get this , that makes it off the record). 268 likes. Both parents have a legal duty to support their child based on their ability to provide that support. We didnt like being there and we made it clear. this is just another way to lock up black men and put them in the leagal slavery system,.. we have to pay half of support but we dont get half the time, we are expected to maintain a house so when the kid does come to visit he has a place to stay. No! So with all of this, I still have to pay support. 25% means you have more than one child with that person because its only 20% if you have one child. In 2013, Edin coauthored Doing the Best I Can: Fatherhood in the Inner City. Edin and coauthor Timothy Nelson conducted in-depth interviews with 110 low-income fathers in the Philadelphia area over seven years and discovered the majority of the men were exhilarated to be fathers, even when the pregnancies were unplanned. They will have to find a roommate or family to live with to cover costs. And parental alienation is against the law despite whether or not youve paid your child support. My son is now 12 i never asked nore put my sons father on child support all i asked of him is to be there for hes son and buy him clothes and shoes and any school needs . So that must be all the women then. Most normal people dont make more than 75k at a typical job. How do men fight this? For this state I can say that they attempt to work with both parents. The system is wrong. My ex unless shes smooching off another man will go into financial hardship when the support ends. And he is an amazing father. You sound completely impossible to co-parent with. I currently pay her 1186 a month despite the fact that the court reduced my child support months ago. Required fields are marked *. Most kids from single families become criminals, homeless, alcohol or drug dependent. This includes food, health insurance, transportation to school, and one third of the utilities. So this guy told me that the money was taken due to the support I told him I was gifted that money which o have proof and he raised his voice and told me so you have responsibilities with this support case and he snapped. I did so, giving him the benefit of the doubt. Child support laws are designed to keep the noncustodial father/mother in a financial decay, as if they are the ones who are responsible for the child and divorce. My ex wife was ordered to pay $55/wk, but is now $60G behind because shes never been enforced to pay. This is killing me cause Im thinking how could she do something like that since we havent been happy together for such a long time. Longform Family Court Judge Sheds Light on Unfair Child Support Practices in Texas Megan Feldman April 3, 2008 4:00AM The problem began the night his wife didn't come home. Here are four of the most critical flaws of the current child support system. We see her once a month (3-4 days each month usually. Read most all of these comments. Taxman. Thats whats wrong with parenting,there is always that one who feels they should have ALL THE SAY SO.. EVERYONE has to learn how to Co -parent. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); THIS IS AN ATTORNEY ADVERTISEMENT. Ive signed a release for my son to obtain a passport so that he may go on a cruise with his mom and her boyfriend because it was the right thing to do yet I am restricted from leaving the country or having a passport because..? Why not suspend child support as punishment!? Hes case is real to him just as your case is just as real to you. An get mad if she loses her job. I am a mother of 3 and when my oldest was 12 I started receiving child support, just last September their dad stoooed working because of an injury. The law presumes that people are incapable of determining right from wrong. He swears I am out partying and conquering the world with the $500-600 he is forced to pay every month because I manage to have a nice car, maintain a nice home, take a yearly vacation with the boys, and have the latest electronic devices. The biggest problem I see with these cases is that everyone tried to make their case the poster child for this situation and thats on both sides. No such luck for moms. Not a chance as they will say Im fully capable of making the money I once did! They are winning because they successfully pit men against women and vice versa, when there are good parents of every gender, every sexual orientation that are being denied their constitutional rights because apparently civil law is above the law, and we need to fight them together, as parents, not fathers or mothers. The child benefits greatly from the growth in both parents, agreements and disagreements. CHANGE NEEDS TO HAPPEN!! I think it should be a different system set up for father that showed they want to be in their child life but low life mothers dont allow it. Jade I am sorry you have know earthly idea what you are talking about. 176K views 12 years ago FOX 25 Boston News - http://www.myfoxboston.com - Just hearing the words child support sparks an emotional response. They used to call cps on me once a year, and when tha never worked, they waited for the paternal grandma to get a settlement from a minor car wreck so that they could essentially purchase my daughters, who became dropouts and my oldest a teenaged mom. Many continued blessings. Now I fear if I get pulled over for any reason, Ill end up in jail. etc. Now onto your custody views. Making physical contact with another person in a harmful or offensive manner is a crime. The courts need to have a better way of enforcing and calculating payments. I fought anyway, and now have a GAL that has equated me with a child abuser in his language and promises to punish me if I dont accept what she is willing to give me. Also EXPARTE DAVIS, 344 sw 2d 295 (1976). He was threatening, abusive, pulled guns on me. Wow that is horrible that your son is going through such an ordeal. If fathers are young, they may have no means of providing financial support to the mother or child. They view child support as "extortion" instead of taking care of their responsibilities to their children. My biological kids are so much better adjusted than my step children because of the positive relationship that their dad and I have.money has got to be taken out of the equation. They make noncustodial parents finance their childrens college education, but they dont make married parents pay for their childrens college educations?????! Until the Child Support Performance and Incentive Act incentive payments (which are actually kickbacks) for collecting child support are changed to stop rewarding states for increasing the gross amount of child support collected, I dont see this happening. Gets paid straight cash, and has since 1997. On the eve before Thanksgiving, I attempted to put the turkey into the oven and made plans for a trip out of town, to find that he hadnt. Hes got 3 other kids and hes doing great? I am so very happy today that he came back to me and i achieved this with the help of ( Robinson.buckler @ yahoo. She said that most of the judges in family court are suppose to chose 50/50 parenting, because that is in the BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD! She has called CPS on me to keep me from seeing my granddaughter cause I have supervisor rights. The equal earning parents then have dramatically different post-child support budgets, since one is receiving and the other is paying. So hes supposed to keep paying while hes in prison? Do what is actually in the best interest of the child and not the state. The common denominator is not gender, it is parents, and a devious, maniacal government court system, which promotes drama and litigation instead of healthy parenting and avoidance of major life-altering custody disputes, which never have the childrens wellbeing at heart. I never even considered child support. But if the primary parent is mom. The scam has been enhanced by the payment of incentives by the federal child support collection office to each states collection agency. Its pretty fracked up. KS and LindseyDont know if your following. While I try to build up time spent with her mom. All the data points towards it. Once she aborts the fetus, the females interests in and obligations to the child are terminated. Child support is effectively a blackmail or extortion system whereby the state takes you children unconstitutionally, and then uses that excuse to charge you extortion fees weekly for the privilege of NOT having your children! Get a lawyer, build a case, and fight for custody my brotha. Gentlemen, here are some tips-1) Get an attorney whenever dealing with child support. 1. Calling them, i was told although a payment plan was included in monthly payments, they will do whatever they want to get it sooner. This is the best way in my personal opinion. Ive had to fight for every cent I received from child support to include being their investigator on the fathers whereabouts, where he worked, where he lived, what he drove etc.. Ive written numerous letters to Judge Carr that fell on death ears. Please explain how thats supposed to work. Its just the opposite. 5) If a woman wants an abortion it is up to her. She can move on with her income, mg income and the new mans income, they like that idea. Im not lonely on the holidays. I want women to enjoy their financial freedom, control the choices they make in their lives, to be able to make choices not based on desperation, and have a great life. None of that matters to me, but it does when our daughter, his only child in the world, gets upsets because she cant see her dad, he has nothing to say to her when he calls, he does not show up to any of her extracurricular activities nor does he even ask what she has going on, he doesnt show up to any of her school awards days or activities, and he has not given her a birthday or Christmas present in three years!! And on top of all this what about his biological needs, he needs a relationship too. 8 out of 10 male friends in the circles of my work and personal life have been through the same asymetrical court systems spanning multiple states. 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